Don't

  • DON'T BAIL: Denial makes it harder to think and act clearly.
  • DON'T PRESSURE HER: It's better to work together as a team.
  • DON'T FORGET: You are equally responsible for this situation. Try to hear her thinking and communicate your own

Do

  • LISTEN: The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to consider.
  • STAY CALM: She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you.
  • TALK ABOUT IT: Trying to hide the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
  • GATHER ALL THE FACTS: Seek wise counsel to make healthy choices that will impact all lives for the best.
  • EXPRESS YOURSELF HONESTLY: Feelings of anger, frustration and fear are normal but must be managed to prevent harm to self or others.
  • Contact Us - You are No Alone.
  • We offer Men’s Parenting Classes that will help you in your preparation for fatherhood.